Cause and Effects

Denia Wilburn

Ms. McKoy

English 2

November 15, 2013

The Cause and Effects of rape.

Being raped is an action that permanently scares you for life. People are noticing some so unfamiliar about daily routines and natural habits. You know how you operate but after that terrible act happens you find yourself feeling totally different.  You start to wet the bed night after night, eating habits become weird, your attitude and perspective changes and so much more. Being raped causes habit changes and insecurity and flashbacks.

The first cause is being raped at a very young age. The effect of being raped at a really young age is being in shock for a really long time and having problems with growing up wetting the bed and so much more. I remember looking in my research and reading where wetting the bed was a habit after the traumatic event. The child his basically scared either way you look at it.

You start to have eating habits that become unnatural and very obvious to others. You can be really hungry at school, but when it gets to you having to be at lunch you get your tray and don’t bother to eat. Take that same example and place it out of school, like if you were at home you over eat and find everything appealing. What you call “cravings” to an impregnated woman would be the same feeling to a rape victim. You crave so many things and especially the things you don’t usually eat. You eat more and more, but when in different environment eating less and less.

The attitude you have towards everything also changes. You become isolated and secluded. You withdrawal yourself from everyone: family, friends, work, etc.  There’s this tiny black box with your name tangled in every web of thoughts. You’re locked inside, stuck like a fly, begging for freedom, loaning for support. Who will give it to you? Who will believe you? Or even hear you out? The judgment you receive turns your whole entire perspective. Some say it was your fault, and some say there’s nothing you could do.

Trust is something that is hard to keep. You have trust issues, and you’re so insecure. It’s hard to have trust with someone, because you feel as if they’re just going to take it away from you. It hurts to have trust that being abused. The most people that you care for are there for you, but your trust is the hardest gift to give them, and even harder in relationships. Having a partner is difficult for a lot of raped victims. They feel as if they are going to be mistreated and done wrong again when they’re not. Trust is hard to gain and it takes time to get by. Trust is a really big step in the process of everything when you look at it.

Basically being raped permanently scares you for life on the inside. You have to be healed the right way. The process you go through takes time, and patience, and care. It could be you today and someone special or close to you tomorrow. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, and give your assistance.